In this theme-based episode of Maximize Your Strengths, we dive into Significance with guest coach Marian Lane.
About Marian Lane
Marian Lane is a certified Strengths Network coach from Auckland, New Zealand. She owns her own coaching practice called Flourish Now and works with individuals, partners and teams in the community. She especially enjoys coaching normal Mums and Dads, teenagers, and young people. She believes that our families, our communities and our world can be impacted positively when we all know and use our innate talents intentionally.
In addition, Marian is a devoted mom of four, all of whom she home-schooled and wife. She has the most wonderful accent and I’m looking forward to bringing her expertise on the Strength theme of Significance to you right now.
Marian’s Top 5 StrengthsFinder Strengths
- Individualization
- Activator
- Significance
- Communication
- Command
Key Takeaways
- People talented in the Significance theme want to be very important in others’ eyes. They are independent and want to be recognized.
- For people with high Significance, leaving a legacy is important.
- We have societal norms that teach us how to act, which can go against our top Strengths.
- By being your rare, Significance self, you have such beautiful gifts to give to the world!
- Significance brings an air of credibility and importance with it—people with Significance bring a kind of charisma to the table.
- When Significance is dialed up too high, you “snuff out other people’s candles.”
- It is important that you never turn off your Strengths, but that you use your Strengths in a healthy way—where you can truly shine and where you can also let other people shine.
Listen in now!
Alissa Daire Nelson All About Significance with Marian Lane
Time-Stamped Show Highlights
- [2:39] – Marian’s top 5 Strengths
Individualization is a Relationship Building theme; the other four are Influencing themes.
- [3:31] – Marian’s personal definition of Significance
My Significance is my driver to strive to leave a legacy in my community and in my family. It is like a filter where I can now use it to be my driver in my day-to-day.
- [5:05] – Marian’s initial reaction to her StrengthsFinder profile, and how she moved beyond it
As soon as I read through the reports, I was stunned at what it meant for me. So much so that I stuck my profile under my bed, literally, for nearly a year. It was something I couldn’t face.
- [12:38] – How to intentionally use and optimize Significance
- [14:06] – Significance’s contributions and needs
- [15:42] – Significance’s trigger
When you don’t know what your legacy is, it can be incredibly upsetting… It can be a crisis of, “Am I just here? Does my existence actually matter?”
- [16:42] – A story from Marian on getting through a triggering time
- [19:45] – Stay-at-home moms with high Significance—this message is for you!
- [22:38] – Negative connotations and overuse patterns tied to Significance
- [29:32] – Significance and Command together
The power of the Significance with Command is that I do not have to do the impacting. I actually make a call on who is going to make the most impact.
- [31:18] – Marian’s thoughts for those just beginning to embrace Significance
Really work on finding out what your passions are! And remember that the most important audience is yourself!
- [32:43] – How to find your great passion, if isn’t clear yet
- [33:40] – The most important thing for those with Significance
