In this episode, we talk all things related to Relator. Join me and coach Hazel Bainbridge to learn more!
About Hazel Bainbridge
Hazel Bainbridge is a highly experienced leadership and personal development coach in the United Kingdom. Her love of coaching stems from observing that people are happier, healthier, and more successful when they have a reason to get out of bed in the morning and are free to express who they really are. She has been coaching professionally since 2003, and takes an accelerated strengths-based approach to working with individuals and teams to align them with their purpose and maximize their potential, passion and performance.
In addition, Hazel designs and delivers coach training solutions for Coaching Success and is a member of faculty at CoachU. She holds many certifications from organizations such as the International Coaching Federation (ICF). She is a Strengths Strategy Certified Coach, as well as an accredited NLP practitioner.
Hazel’s Top 5 StrengthsFinder Strengths
- Learner
- Connectedness
- Relator
- Ideation
- Positivity
Key Takeaways
- Relators enjoy close relationships with others. They find deep satisfaction in working hard with friends to achieve their goals.
- Relators need to be in a space where they can truly be themselves. It is all about being real and honest.
- Labels that are often applied to Relators are “shy,” “stand-offish” and “boring.” This stems from Relator’s need to observe before participating.
- Those with high Relator are intensely loyal to those around them.
- Relator doesn’t like doing the “surface” stuff – it likes to dive in deep, and get to “real” stuff!
- The StrengthsFinder assessment is an aspirational assessment that shows you where your potential is. Our limiting beliefs are often the things that constrict our potential.
Listen in now!
Alissa Daire Nelson All About Relator with Hazel Bainbridge
Time-Stamped Show Highlights
I connect very easily and quickly with people. The flipside of that is, however, that I feel the need to have permission to make that connection with people.
- [5:03] – Hazel’s personal definition of Relator
Relator provides a space and ability to create trust and intimacy really quick with people.
- [6:55] – The need for trust and authenticity in relationships
Relators need to know they are in a safe place before they can really create strong relationships, which means they often are seen as being “slow to warm up” in social situations.
- [11:44] – The role of confidence for those with high Relator
- [13:08] – Strengths and neurolinguistics programming (NLP)
NLP looks at what’s under the surface; what beliefs do you have and have been created that have been there since you were a little kid. While there is a “nurture” versus “nature” aspect to how our Strength themes develop over time, there are a lot of these that have been wired from the beginning. But, due to societal norms and other things, we are often criticized for overusing or not having a mature showing of particular Strengths.
- [20:21] – Turning Talents into Strengths
Once we start learning about our Strengths, they can show up and thrive if we can harness and train them.
- [23:10] – Relator’s radar for authenticity
- [24:53] – Loyalty in relationships for Relator
- [29:16] – Ikigai: What it means and why Hazel uses it
“Ikigai” is a Japanese term that describes a person’s reason for being. It is what makes you get out of bed in the morning, your sense of purpose.
- [33:11] – Hazel’s best tip for those with Relator
Start with yourself. You have amazing capacity to offer other people person intimacy and create really great, deep relationships. To do this really well, learn to create trust and intimacy with yourself first.
